Guys, I feel like we need to have an important chat today. Too many women can relate to certain things I post on Tumblr, or Instagram, or Facebook. I hear so many times, “thank you, this is exactly what I needed to hear today,” and it breaks my heart that so many people can relate. Here are some of those things I have posted elsewhere. Please listen.
If a guy ever says to you “you’re too good for me,” or “I’m not a good person,” etc. that is your first sign to walk away and never look back. If he is a manipulative person, that is his first tactic to get you to stay because he knows that girls can’t resist the urge to convince him that he’s worth it. If he is a manipulative person, that’s the nicest tactic he will ever use on you. It’s just the beginning.
If he isn’t manipulative, then he genuinely believes that he is a bad guy or that he isn’t worth your affection. You can’t teach him to love himself, or to be a good guy. He’s the only person that can do that and you shouldn’t even try.
Not everyone you lose is a loss. You are no one’s “sometimes.” You are worth it, and anyone who thinks otherwise shouldn’t be in your life. No one should be defining your happiness for you. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t listen to the people in your life who love you. You should actually pay very close attention to the ideas and opinions of the people you respect. If the man you are with doesn’t measure up, that is something to seriously think about.
Lastly, stop putting your self worth in the hands of other people. No matter what happens to you or who judges you or who stops talking to you, they don’t determine your worth. You do. God does. You have the ability to face your fears and your heartbreaks and to choose to have a positive and joy filled life despite them and because of them. The only thing standing in the way of your happiness is you.
We all go through rough times or have terrible things happen to us. Don’t diminish what you are going through or deny yourself the right to grieve. But pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go one scared step at a time. You will find yourself again. You will be strong again. You will find joy again. And you will be okay.
Until next time,