I tried to write this as a tweet today but I had way too many words and way too few characters.
If today you lose your hope and you feel all alone, don’t isolate yourself. Talk to someone. Whether it is a friend, a leader, or a professional–anyone. You’d be surprised how many people have been through the same things. Even in your darkest place, having someone who will hear you, listen, and love is irreplaceable. Embrace what you are going through and allow it to mold you. Even on the worst days, when you want to run from your pain, there is purpose, and you will feel it eventually.
I will never stop preaching that everything happens for a reason. It becomes more evident and more true for me every single day. In my worst moments, I don’t feel good for anyone, and that’s okay. I probably shouldn’t help people when my cup is empty and when my brokenness is all-consuming.
But friends, one day you will meet someone, or someone from your past will reach out to you, or a friend will say “my friend is going through such-and-such and I know that you did too, can you talk to them?” It will just happen. I say this so often–if you make yourself vulnerable, you might change someone’s life. By putting yourself and your story out there, you have opened the door and given people permission to talk to you. And I promise you that there is so much purpose in your journey and in your story, because helping just one person walk a similar path is worth it.
Our world is broken. People are people and they make mistakes or they do terrible things. Sometimes we’re the ones who have made those very mistakes or done those terrible things that have torn our own lives down. Sometimes it’s someone who has done them to us. And sometimes it’s illness, or death, or financial problems. The list goes on. Life is hard–for everyone.
If you are in the middle of your storm, talk to people. If you know someone who has been through something similar, don’t be afraid to reach out to them. It is okay to let people see you struggle. We are not meant to do life alone. Let other people help you carry your burden.
If you have weathered your storm, and if your story could help change people’s lives, what keeps you from sharing it? No one is perfect, but none of us like to publicly admit that. Whether it’s your mistake or someone else’s, we don’t like to admit to the flaws in our lives. What would happen if you put your pride on the shelf and shared some of the struggles of your life?
Personally, I don’t like sharing what I have been through. It gives me anxiety, it makes me relive past hurts, and sometimes I cry in front of people, which is one of my least favorite things to do. It hurts my pride to say I’m divorced. All of a sudden people look at me differently and judge whether or not I’m good enough. It hurts my pride to tell people I have anxiety. It’s a weird mental thing that people don’t really understand and I don’t want them to think I’m weak.
It is never easy for me to be vulnerable, or to share my story, because it is full of things I am not proud of. But you know what makes that kind of beautiful? That I have the courage to do it anyways. I understand that I am NOT alone, but I also understand the devastating, isolating feeling of walking through a road of brokenness. This is your journey, and your bad season, and your pain. Even in a room full of people you can feel all alone. If that is you, please understand that this season will pass. The only promise in this life is that things will change. Now is not forever. Now will always change.
If you can’t see the end of the tunnel, reach out to someone to talk to. And if you’ve already been through your tunnel, shine a light behind you to help someone else find their way out. The feeling of freedom that comes at the end is breathtaking and we shouldn’t keep that to ourselves.
Until next time,